Pay attention now - today gets a bit science-y!
We start by understanding - in very basic terms - that the brain is just a mass of connections and the world is a mass of stimuli. The brain chooses which stimuli to take notice of based on - firstly whether something is a matter of life and death - then on what we've learned from our past experiences. By default, it then filters out the (vast majority) of the rest. This means your thoughts - before you even think them - have already been tainted with the dramas of your past.... but more on this later.
But what does this mean?
In short, this means that your thoughts are not always 'true', and whats more, in the exact same situation, your 'truth' may be very different to someone elses!
This means whatever inner battle you are attempting to overcome, there is normally a statement or fact you believe is true which is holding you back - so don’t ask yourself if your thoughts are true, ask yourself if your thoughts are helpful/useful !!
Let's look at an example - you think “they don’t love me” you then shut down and start looking for justifications for your thought and then look to ‘prove’ to yourself that you are right! This is called Confirmation Bias and has been covered in Mind Traps Day 2.
So, how do we know if something is true?
The only way we know if something is true is if we decide to believe it!
The alternative, and a much more productive way to look at our thoughts is using a different framework - do not question if something is true but if it is helpful.
If we look at another example, a person with cancer with a 95% fatality rate within 2 years may feel a number of different things. But how will she feel and act if she thinks “95% of people die within 2 years” compared to if she thinks “Some people beat this and I can make a big difference to my outcome by looking after myself and being positive” Which is more helpful? Who do you think will live a happier and longer life?
At the end of the day, it doesn’t really matter what is true, but by thinking more helpful thoughts you stand a much better chance of letting go of the negative ones and training your brain to start to see the positive.
All Photo's used for our 'Mind Trap' Series were provided by Dominique-Alana Photography